"When the person you're attracted to attempt bold gestures, it's generally considered romantic. when the person you're NOT attracted to do it, it's often considered desperate or psycho" - David Ty, one of Bente's favorite men.

This was his reaction to Sarah Jessica Parker's "When men attempt bold gestures, generally it's considered romantic. When women do it, it's often considered desperate or psycho." Gender, he says, has nothing to do with it.

I thank God for smart friends.

"Relationships are overrated. Just look at all the long relationships around you. According to my observations most of those are bitter, conflict-ridden, power games." - Hosep

Still, I want one. I think.

While in a public seating area at Fort Bonifacio Global City, I was asked what I was looking for in a man. The first thing that came to mind was "tall" which I think by instinct would be the safest answer ;p I know I have tried making a list of the qualities I wanted (you know, the kind of list that you check specially when a guy is giving you a hard time and you want to strengthen your resolve to forget him).

I found this very interesting article and wrote this summary (and some personal insights why I think the points make a point).

1. Return her messages and may I just add, do so as soon as you are able to. It doesn't have to be profound, only sincere.
2. Kiss her for no reason. Or hug her for no reason. You can give out a hug without people giving you a "lool" but still be able to show the genuine desire to feel closer.
3. Dance with her. We won't criticize you if you can't lead but as long as you are able to stand there and be game to dance for a girl, that should do it. It's not the moves but the thought that counts.
4. Dress up for her. Specially for non metro sexuals, this can be highly appreciated. Better yet, get her opinion.
5. Remember random milestones. Ah yes. Stuff like where you both saw the first ever cue to a men's toilet that she had to wait for you.
6. Take on an activity with her. She may have traveled the world, but not with you, yet.
7. Propose a visit to her family. We tend to really fall for a man who can get the family to like him.
8. It's the little things.

And may I just add, mind your timing. It's not everyday we get sick. It's not everyday we feel bad. But when we do, please be there for us. In this world where women are deemed to be independent, know that we are not perfectly independent. We want to know that you are someone we can depend on during the times we need you to be.